Why is it that when we are young we fantasize about becoming adults, and we glorify it to the point where it’s ultimately the answer to all of our problems. But then once we reach adulthood we are so desperate to go back in time and be young again. “To a simpler time” we say.
Being young wasn’t easy and sure wasn’t that simple, fewer responsibilities? Yes, perhaps that’s true. But what about struggling to be who you are? What about all those petty fights you had with your friends, your parents and everyone who went against you? I for one, wouldn’t want to go back to a time where I was less knowledgeable, and as a result of it suffered from lack of self-esteem and anxiety.
Nostalgia is a tricky thing, it sheds light only on the good parts of a period of time and shuts the struggles out. Now that doesn’t mean that what’s in the past is all bad, nor does it mean that it is all good. It shouldn’t make you think that where you are right now is horrible, that back then was much better. Don’t let nostalgia play mind tricks on you, every human being has to go through some ups and downs in order to grow.
Being young doesn’t necessarily mean “Good times only”. And being an adult isn’t synonyms with problems and midlife crisis.
Stop daydreaming about the past and stop imagining the future. Just take it as you go and let it be, good, bad or ugly.
Go with the flow